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How To Move On When The Kids Move Out

Eighteen years seems like a lifetime away when your babies are first born. Yet those precious years whiz past before you know it. Some parenting days can be tough and make you long for some quiet and solitude. Parenting is not an easy task when you consider the long nights spent awake trying to pacify a crying infant after an equally long and difficult day with your child.

After the first few years, time begins to zip by a lot quicker until you wake up one morning with the sad realization that your kids are no longer kids and are now old enough to leave your home. One day, they leave. It is a painful moment to realize that your life will never be the same again. Yet, if you mentally prepare yourself for this event, you will be better equipped to cope with it.

To begin with, you need to understand that even though your kids are no longer in the same house, your relationship is not over. This change marks the beginning of a new dimension to your relationship. No longer will it be one where the parent is in control of the child. Rather, the parent and child will be on the same level. Your child may still ask you for guidance on some things, but you will be surprised to realize that you are also beginning to consult your kids on major issues. This is the time when both the parent and child are equal partners in the relationship. It?s a great feeling to know that your child still needs your love and support, just in a different way.

You and your spouse were once an entity that existed without children. The relationship between couples in a marriage tends to be altered with the arrival of kids. Now that your kids have left the house, you can reform that oneness that was so important to the early part of your marriage. You can plan events together that you ordinarily wouldn?t have been able to do. For instance, you can both go on a road trip or spend longer hours in bed in the morning without worrying about getting breakfast ready. Don?t undervalue this chance to rebuild the friendship with your closest friend. For single parents, this is the perfect opportunity to go out and meet new people.

You are already aware that when kids are around, time is at a premium. Many parents are so busy with their child's piano and soccer lessons that their own interests take a backseat. Once that responsibility has shifted away from you, it is time to unleash your creative skills and reawaken the passions in your life.

You now have the time for your former hobbies as well as time to engage in new pursuits. You can take a long vacation, start a new business, or simply enjoy catching up on all those unread novels resting on your bookshelf. With the departure of the kids, you are left with plenty of time to follow your dreams.

Before you make any big decisions that will tip your world upside-down, you should take a few weeks or months to get used to your new life. Feel free to stay in regular touch with your children and help them get used to their new lives. Once you and your children have gone through the adjustment period, you can start tackling new adventures and challenges. Savor the new experiences and joys this aspect of life can bring. You did a great job as a parent preparing your child for life. It's time to have fun, a new kind of fun. Get out there and make it happen.